D.I.V.O.R.C.E. (‘Life’s a Journey’ nostalgia Link-Up, week 51)

Welcome to our weekly series of ‘link-up’ Posts which reflect on life’s journey, old memories and family stories (see below for more info).

A sombre subject for this week, but I know I am not alone.

Don’t worry, this is not a tale of woe and depression, but a reflection on an episode in my life which I am thankfully now able to look back upon and talk about.

The worst part? Laying next to my 5 year old son in his bed and holding him while he cried for his dad who was ‘all alone’. Utterly heart-wrenching.

The best part (if there can be such a thing)? The fact that my ex-husband can sit in my lounge with us both, along with my new husband & family and drink a cup of tea. It took a long time.

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My son will, perhaps ironically, be a better person for this never-inflict-on-your-worst-enemy experience; he now has a deeper, more attentive relationship with his father due to their one-on-one time, and he has a second safety blanket in the form of a loving step-father. These men are polar opposites. His Yin and Yang perhaps. He also has a half brother (although this has turned out to be a bit like wanting a puppy…..you beg for one for two years and then when you finally get one you tease it until it cries. Can’t win ‘em all, I guess).

There is no escaping the traumatic nature of what we have endured as a family, but the facts are these – we have emerged (by the skin of our teeth) from the other side of divorce in one piece, united by the love for our child. We are friends (just about) and can finally wish each other well.

Maybe you’ve ‘been there’ too? I feel that this is such a major event in my life to date that it is worthy of a page or ten in my family stories. I owe my son the full story one day. If you feel up to sharing yours, post it here in our Linky, in the name of therapy….

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More about the Life’s a Journey weekly memories series.

A selection of other posts from this series:-

FIrst day of school memories family stories

Week 2 – Old School Portrait

family stories best friends

Week 4 – Bestest Friends

family stories teenage crush

Week 5 – Teenage Crushes

family stories grease movie

Week 6 – First Movie Memories

family stories cinderella

Week 9 – Favourite Childhood Books

family stories

Week 19 – Becoming a Parent

family stories

Week 25 – Old Boyfriends

family stories

Week 39 – My home town

 

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5 responses to “D.I.V.O.R.C.E. (‘Life’s a Journey’ nostalgia Link-Up, week 51)

  1. A moving post… It does take time to find a new balance.
    I have “been there” too, and have linked a post which does not directly talk about my divorce, but about one of its consequences. Hope that is OK!

  2. Just wanted to thank you for the supportive comment you left on my blog, it is much appreciated. :)
    I should have mentioned that these events happened in 2011, and that we did find a new balance in the end. If you are interested, you can read about the whole story here: http://funkywelliesrandomthoughts.com/writing/
    Keep up with the good work on your Nostalgia series please! I am thoroughly enjoying every one of them and hope many others are too!

    • Thanks indeed. You’ve been one of my most regular visitors this year, so it’s good to know at least one person is listening!!! If only there were more. The Linkies are so hard to get going, as people follow their habits with more established weekly memes. I had hoped that something a bit different would stimulate interest, but it’s always a quiet Linky. Onwards!!!

  3. It is really a shame that the Linky has not picked up more yet. I guess you advertise it in all the “right places” already? As you say, onwards, and I wish you more and more success with it!

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